Acknowledgements

I would firstly like to thank God for giving me the strength while I was writing this demanding paper. It took a lot of energy as well as emotional strain out of me.

I would like to thank my parents for all their supporting and encouraging words on the occasions when I needed them the most. Without their love, writing this paper would not have been possible.

In addition I would like to thank my supervisor Dr Edwina Ward for all the time, as well as the patience, she had with me in all our regular meetings. I want to thank her for the gentle way in which she had criticised my work. This made it easier to do the work even when I felt a bit discouraged.

Thanks must go too my spiritual director Pastor Reinhold Schiele, for opening his house to me when I needed a time to break away from my work to find a bit of rest. Also for his humorous and yet serious talks and counselling when I needed it the most. And for always having an ear to listen when I needed it.

A special word of thanks to Ilse Schiele for helping me to construct this paper as well as for the editing this work. Without her help, this paper would not have been a success.

A word of thanks goes to all the members of the Lutheran Church in Piet Retief for all their prayers and encouraging words, as well as their interest in my studies. Here, I would especially like to mention two individuals. Mrs. Ronell Lilje, for showing me the direction which my ministry should take as well as Ms. Maika Lilje for being there and for being a source of inspiration through her friendship. You will always be special to me.

I hope that this presentation will be a blessing for all who will be reading it and that it may challenge you in a new way. Love and determination can work for the good in the family who is suffering as a result of this terrible illness. Together we can overcome this problem of alcoholism.
Table of Content

1. Motivation and Background

2. Definitions

2.1 Addiction

2.2 Alcoholism

2.3 Communication

2.4 Counseling

2.5 Family

2.6 Pastoral Counseling

2.7 Rehabilitation

2.8 Teenager

3. Theories on Alcoholism

3.1 Review of Biological theories of Alcoholism

3.1.1 Psychoanalytic-Psycho dynamic-Ego theorists

3.1.2 Social and Biological theories in a Combined Model

4 Help can be found: Alcoholics Anonymous & Al-Anon

4.1 The focus point of Alcoholics Anonymous

4.2 The focus point of Al-Anon

4.3 Methods of Healing: The ABCD model in juxtaposition to the 12 Principles of Alcoholics Anonymous.

5 The New Model for the family: The ABCD Method

5.1.1. The A-B-C Method in Collective Crisis Therapy

5.1.1.1a A—Achieve Contact

5.1.1.2b B—Boiling Down

5.1.1.3c C—Coping

5.2 Clinebell’s Addition to the A-B-C Method

D—Developing a Plan of Action

6 Emotional Problems: Finding Inner Peace

6.1Challenges facing the Alcoholic and Family in a Home Environment

6.2 The Role of the Family in the Rehabilitation of an Alcoholic

6.3 Search for Inner Peace: a theological construct

7 Overcoming the “Generation Gaps” between Children and the Parents

7.1 How do Family Members, especially Children deal with Anger and Resentment?

7.2 Crisis of the Alcoholic Parent

7.3. Crisis of a Family

8. What is the role of the church in the rehabilitation process?

9. Conclusion

10. Bibliography

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